Spiritual rebirth

Numerous accounts of spiritual re-birth are found in the Gospels and the Epistle to the Corinthians. A main Christian message is that one must die in order to be born again as Jesus says to Nicodemus in the Gospel of John, 3-3: “I am telling you the truth: no one can see the kingdom of God without being born again”, and, (6) “A person is born physically of human parents, but is born spiritually of the Spirit.” This death is not of physical but rather of spiritual and psychological nature. It is symbolic of the death of the ‘ego-self’. A transformation occurs when a person gains profound insight or has an “Aha!” experience that leads to a shift of consciousness. The Spirit is not an external element, but it is rather the God essence within each person. This is the meaning of Jesus’ statement in the Gospel of John, 10-34 “It is written in your own Law that God said: You are gods.” The same idea is beautifully expressed in the words of the Bulgarian Master Beinsa Douno: “Look for the origin of all things so that you may find the true God within your soul.”
The ultimate goal of salvation is to obtain salvation from the lower ignorant ‘ego-self’ and its destructive habits. When a person acknowledges that God is inside of him or her and that this God essence permeates everything, the individual gains understanding and acceptance of the message, “You are gods.” The scriptures do not discriminate by saying that some of us are gods, but asserts that all of creation is holy. In Colossians 3-11 we read: “Christ is all, Christ is in all.” This Christ or Cosmic consciousness is accessible to everyone.
Excerpt from : Guru in Jeans: Inward Journey to Psychospiritual Awakening

The art of patience

Within every relationship there are ups and downs. What makes
a relationship endure is not the absence of conflicts but the ability to
avoid power struggles and resolve disagreements. You may have read different self-help books, talked to your partner of even consulted a counselor. All of this will be of no advantage to you unless you make a commitment to keep working on improving your communication with you partner on a consistent basis. As they say practice makes perfect. Relationships grow through change.
Any relationship goes through changes the same way you change as an individual. You cannot expect your partner or your relationship to stay the same. That would be not only unrealistic but also unhealthy. Imagine your partner staying stuck in his or her old way no matter what you do or say. I cannot stress enough to couples how important it is to be consistent in doing good work in your relationship that brings the two of you closer. Perhaps the therapy sessions you may have gone to have helped some and now the two of you are communicating better and getting along. Remember to use all of the tools you have learned. Practice, practice, practice. Do not rely on your partner to do all of the work in the relationship. He or she may do it at first for a period of time and just as you think that everything is going well, you enter the same pattern of conflict, miscommunication and lack of intimacy. In order for your relationship to stay healthy you need consistency throughout your partnership. Consistency is expressed in many ways from taking time to say “I love you” to being mindful of not engaging in power struggles and being honest. Sometimes partners become too comfortable with each other and begin to slack off.
Excerpt from : Couple's Communication Made Easy (audio book)